Where's the Switch - I'd Like to Turn off My Feelings, Please!
"Too Much” people feel everything so very deeply.
It’s both the greatest of blessings and the greatest of curses.
I’ve noticed a thread among the comments on my private FB group.
It’s an undercurrent of anger and hurt, though I’m not sure the commenters would see it that way.
“I am simply me and I don’t give a shit if you don’t like me.”
“Here I am, take it or leave it.”
‘You don’t have to like me, I’m just fine by myself.”
I’ve said all of these and a few more, with far more colorful language.
You know what all those words and phrases are?
They’re a shield, a protective layer put between you and the world.
A defense mechanism.
Here’s a great irony: They end up doing the opposite.
They’ll fuel your anger, they’ll accentuate your “differentness”, and they’ll lead to isolate yourself.
And all of that just takes you down the garden path right into the rabbit hole.
This is what has worked for me instead:
Embrace your “different” with joy instead of defiance.
Forgive others for not understanding you. They’re doing the best they can. Truly wish them well in their own journey.
Don’t force a square peg into a round hole. If someone doesn’t “get” you, move on. Don’t let magical thinking convince you they’ll get you better the next time.
I can’t stress this enough.
Don’t let life make you hard.
Keep space open in your heart for new people and experiences. Don’t close yourself off for fear of being hurt or misunderstood again. Sometimes the most wonderful people and things come in highly unexpected packages and circumstances.
As always, I’d love to hear your thoughts. Hit reply to email me!
Sending you so much love.