Here's Why You Should Never Compare Yourself to Others
It's just setting yourself up for misery...and why would you do that?
“Oh, God. What I’m going through is nothing compared to him/her.”
“I should be counting my blessings.”
“I have nothing to complain about.”
I read these types of posts time and again. They’re all dangerous.
The other day, I posted on FB, asking people what their latest adversity was and how they handled it. I had several friends post comments such as the ones above.
Here’s why this made me sad.
Life is not a competition because we’re not all following the same path. Actually, none of us are. Your journey is yours alone, completely unique to you. How can you compare two completely unique experiences? It’s apples to oranges. You’re not better or worse, you’re just you, walking down your road.
Look, at 56, I just sold my home and moved into a furnished rental 400 miles away because my heart told me this is where I belong. I have no idea what I’m going to do when my lease is up and I’m totally okay with that.
Should I compare myself with someone who sold their house to trade up to a bigger, fancier house? Of course not.
When you make statements such as the ones above, you minimize yourself. It’s like saying other people matter more than you do. Why would you do that? It’s SO not true!
Your combination of personality, skills, knowledge, humor, abilities, compassion, and integrity is completely unique in this world. Who are you to deny the world that which makes you, you in your entirety?
You’re entitled to every single one of your feelings, regardless of how you perceive them. Stop with the shoulda, coulda, woulda's and step into your own endless worth.
When other people read that you have no right to complain about your life when you read about theirs, how do you think that makes them feel?
I’d say even more hopeless. What happens when we feel like we have no hope?
Nothing good, I’m sure we can agree on that.
I think it’s our job in the world to build others up and show them hope, compassion, and love. Telling them their troubles seem overwhelming to a complete stranger is the opposite of that.
Look, I know this is not your intent. I know you wish only the best for others.
But I like to think that one of my jobs in the world is to shake up the status quo and give people different perspectives to consider.
I hope I've been successful. Please comment below and let me know if anything in this post resonates with you.
I always love hearing from you!